Why Is ‘BFF’ Not Always Forever?

One of the most important supplements for my health is Vitamin G – Girlfriends! I love investing in mutually supportive relationships with other women—that’s why Lift As You Climb is my motto.

 

As I shared on a recent podcast episode, I have been blessed with many amazing BFFs (Best Friends Forever) over my six plus decades, who I credit for making me the woman I am today.

 

But unfortunately, some relationships that I thought were BFFs and would last forever, didn’t. And losing those friendships hurt in a way that was different than the end of a romantic relationship. 

 

When the signs say ‘END OF THE ROAD’ but you try to ignore them…

 

Truthfully, I was usually the one who got dumped by my ex-BFFs. Maybe it’s because of my naturally optimistic and determined personality… People tease me about being ‘Pollyanna’ and the ‘Chief Cheerleading Officer.’ When things got a little...

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Is Self-care SELFISH?

I have a complicated history with the word SELF and I think it's because the emphasis is on self that transitions to SELFISH.

 

As a female in my generation and heritage, I was taught from an early age to put others before myself, to nurture and care for others, but to minimize what I needed or felt.

 

“Selfish” was a nasty label to put on anyone, and especially to be avoided as a woman.

 

As I matured, I had to unlearn a lot of the teachings of my earlier life. I have come to realize how critically important it is to take care of myself.

 

In fact, self-care is the opposite of being selfish because when I am at my absolute best, at the peak of my performance levels, I can do so much more for others.

 

Self-care is not one single area of focus, it is a balancing act of physical, emotional, financial, and spiritual care.

 

Self-care might be scheduling a facial or investing in getting my hair done.

 

Self-care might be hiring a coach,...

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