Why Is ‘BFF’ Not Always Forever?

One of the most important supplements for my health is Vitamin G – Girlfriends! I love investing in mutually supportive relationships with other women—that’s why Lift As You Climb is my motto.

 

As I shared on a recent podcast episode, I have been blessed with many amazing BFFs (Best Friends Forever) over my six plus decades, who I credit for making me the woman I am today.

 

But unfortunately, some relationships that I thought were BFFs and would last forever, didn’t. And losing those friendships hurt in a way that was different than the end of a romantic relationship. 

 

When the signs say ‘END OF THE ROAD’ but you try to ignore them…

 

Truthfully, I was usually the one who got dumped by my ex-BFFs. Maybe it’s because of my naturally optimistic and determined personality… People tease me about being ‘Pollyanna’ and the ‘Chief Cheerleading Officer.’ When things got a little...

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Love At Any Age

Love After Sixty

Recently, I was talking to a friend, also in her 60’s like me, and we were talking about the difficulty with feeling sexy and passionate as we age, and how our changing bodies lead to not feeling sexy enough, and wondering if it’s realistic to expect the kind of passion we had in our youth.

She said something that really struck a chord with me: “Really, if I don't turn me on, who can?”

Society has led us think of love as something that others give us. But what I have come to realize is that it is even more important to love ourselves.

Love yourself first, because you need love as a human being, no matter your age or stage of life. And because this is how we take back our power instead of waiting for others to give us what we need.

 

Love Thy Selfie

Self-love and self-appreciation have become more acceptable and even fashionable in recent years, but that was definitely not the case when I was growing up.

The message I received was that it...

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Is Self-care SELFISH?

I have a complicated history with the word SELF and I think it's because the emphasis is on self that transitions to SELFISH.

 

As a female in my generation and heritage, I was taught from an early age to put others before myself, to nurture and care for others, but to minimize what I needed or felt.

 

“Selfish” was a nasty label to put on anyone, and especially to be avoided as a woman.

 

As I matured, I had to unlearn a lot of the teachings of my earlier life. I have come to realize how critically important it is to take care of myself.

 

In fact, self-care is the opposite of being selfish because when I am at my absolute best, at the peak of my performance levels, I can do so much more for others.

 

Self-care is not one single area of focus, it is a balancing act of physical, emotional, financial, and spiritual care.

 

Self-care might be scheduling a facial or investing in getting my hair done.

 

Self-care might be hiring a coach,...

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