In our culture, there’s a certain vision of what retirement is supposed to look like.
You see it in television commercials: The lovely couple with the silver hair, with polo sweaters over their shoulders, walking hand in hand on the beach, or riding together in a golf cart. Grandparents in sensible clothes with plenty of time to dote on their grandkids.
If you work hard and save a big enough nest egg then by age 65 you can retire and live off your savings, free to live a life of leisure with the few years you have left.
It is a lovely picture from the outside. But the disturbing view from the inside is the unspoken understanding that people who have reached a certain age are expected to gracefully exit stage right and fade into obsolescence. Society doesn’t have much use for them anymore, except perhaps for babysitting. They’ve reached their expiry date.
I took an unconventional approach in my youth, choosing entrepreneurship over a...
Love After Sixty
Recently, I was talking to a friend, also in her 60’s like me, and we were talking about the difficulty with feeling sexy and passionate as we age, and how our changing bodies lead to not feeling sexy enough, and wondering if it’s realistic to expect the kind of passion we had in our youth.
She said something that really struck a chord with me: “Really, if I don't turn me on, who can?”
Society has led us think of love as something that others give us. But what I have come to realize is that it is even more important to love ourselves.
Love yourself first, because you need love as a human being, no matter your age or stage of life. And because this is how we take back our power instead of waiting for others to give us what we need.
Love Thy Selfie
Self-love and self-appreciation have become more acceptable and even fashionable in recent years, but that was definitely not the case when I was growing up.
The message I received was that it...
I am beginning a new encore today.
With stage fright and butterflies, I am stepping into the spotlight again, in a new and different way. This is another step in my evolution as a woman.
Just like the chapter in my book “I’ve Never Been This Me Before” – this is a virgin voyage onto public airways – my voice, my stories, my thoughts and my questions.
My first podcast has been submitted to Apple Podcasts.
Somewhere behind an internet curtain, a powerful i-wizard holds the power to decide if my show premise is worthy of sharing to the world, if anyone would want to listen, if my content matters.
My ego is quaking in her little suede boots. She’s trying hard to pull me back, keep me safe, keep me irrelevant. My ego has enlisted the help of her friends, Limiting Beliefs, and Imposter Syndrome.
Inspired by International Women’s Day and motivated by the many, many courageous women around...
In my work as a transformation catalyst, I often work with women who want to change their professional direction but are unsure how.
They are fed up with their current situation. They know what they are doing now does not support the lifestyle they really want - financially, emotionally, aspirationally, or otherwise.
If you resonate with any of the challenges below, let’s explore how to solve them so you can move forward with confidence in the direction you really want to go.
Going from being proficient at something to being a novice is jarring. And being new at something means not only a lot of learning, but potential failure too. As you embark on your new future—or even simply contemplate it—you may be inundated with concerns like:
Every year - and sometimes more often than once in a year - I create a visual strategic plan for the results I want to achieve and as a reminder of how I will feel when I achieve those goals.
I developed my own process several years ago based on a lifetime of experience with vision boards, goal setting and strategic planning. I also encompassed other best practices for visualization, focus and accountability.
My process was so effective for me and some friends that I created an online, self-guided version of my methodology called the Visual Encore Plan.
One of the seven elements of the Visual Encore Plan is to choose a word that has significance and is motivating.
Excerpt from the Visual Encore Plan, Module Seven:
Choose a single word or short phrase that encapsulates your intention for the next 12 months or the term of your Encore Plan.
I recommend you...
As we approach the end of year 2020, I would like to reach out to family, friends, new and old relationships around the world, and wish you each the very best of health, joy and abundance.
I reflect on all that has happened. Not all of this bizarre year in history was easy or welcome but many events pushed me to stretch my capabilities, learn new skills, create new collaborations and start new businesses.
I made new friends, reached more and different audiences and moved closer to my goals on Identity, Influence and Impact.
In less than 12 months: I revamped The Encore Catalyst - shifting its focus from reluctant retirees to eager encore seekers! My WHY is helping others to know their WHY and help them star in the life they design - their Encore! Together, we are setting the stage for exciting new purposes, careers, businesses, inventions, passions, relationships and more!
My next step was to launch The Encore Academy - an online education platform, created by women, about women and...
If you don't want your life to resemble a sequel to the iconic 1993 movie Groundhog Day, starring Bill Murray, you have to shake some things up, peer deep into your soul, invite change just like the seasons and, most important, have a vision of what your “not-more-of-the-same-drama" life could look like.
At the end of each calendar year, I peer down my proverbial groundhog hole. But rather than wait for sun or cloud to reveal my future – I prioritize creation of an updated visual representation of the future I desire.
No doubt there are some aspects of 2020 we do not wish to repeat in the new year.
What a nightmare it would be to continue to wake up day after day and relive the circumstances that keep us stuck, unsatisfied and...
I am thrilled to be one of twenty-eight authors from around the globe that collaborated on the exciting project: THE POWER OF WHY - Book Two.
If you have thought about creating your own online course but were not sure why it is worth the effort or how to get started, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
You do not have to figure it out on your own!
That is the purpose of this project; our WHY – to share why each of us decided to create online courses and WHY YOU SHOULD TOO!
Current forecasts estimate the global online education market will generate more than $319 billion by the year 2025.
The Power of Why book details why twenty-eight women created online courses and why you should too.
In October, I was honored to be invited to be part of an international project visioned by Purvi Tantia as part of her “Women With Wisdom” business group. Purvi, a multiple time Ted-Talk speaker, gathered the contributors, and curated and published this work.
The expression ‘Once Upon a Time’ conjures up thoughts for me of a time when things were different, perhaps better, or at least simpler.
Generally, these are times fondly or romantically remembered but not always.
Once Upon a Time suggests a state of suspended history that we can look back on.
Today, as we near the end of this historic year, and I reflect back to the past months, it does seem that the world has lived in a dark fairy tale while our land was cursed with a pandemic.
All the kingdoms in the world were under siege from a villainous virus that threatened the lives and livelihoods of their citizens and the sustainability of many businesses.
I am not trying to make light of the negative and traumatic events of this past year by suggesting we have been living in some storybook or cartoon. But I think that you can see that there are some parallels with good old fashioned ‘Once Upon a Time’ narratives.
We know from stories of childhood bedtimes that...
I have been called the Mistress of Reinvention, a Maven of Transformation, and the Queen of Change to mention just a few of the identities that defined and shaped my life.
Part of my evolution and development has been candidly shared in the book “Who Am I Now? – Feminine Wisdom, Unmasked, Uncensored”.
The story reveals how I became aware of my own identity crisis and the realization that change not only was a constant but, in fact, it was a catalyst for an extraordinary life.
Recently, I was asked to explain how I appear to embrace change so courageously and how I navigate the transformation process.
If you have peered into my life through the book, or you know me personally, you know I have experienced more changes than most and not all changes were my choice.
It will also be evident I have pursued change and faced change with optimism, even during the times I was terrified and completely uncertain what was around the next corner.
The ultimate catalyst to embrace...